What have you noticed?

We were honored to work with Cactus Jack in this production. Larry Love on left, Cactus Jack center and Claudia Paredes on right

We were honored to work with Cactus Jack in this production. Larry Love on left, Cactus Jack center and Claudia Paredes on right

Eat and sleep when you can. Always have extra water with you. (In your home, car and on your person when walking). Focus on the most important things. Avoid toxic substances, people and get them out of your life as soon as possible. Perfect practice makes perfect. Don’t ever depend on anyone else to pack or take care of your stuff, ever. Say less and listen more. Write important items down and review them. Have a book with you in case you have to wait for long periods of time. Expect the unexpected and learn from it don’t complain when situations don’t turn out like you think they should have. Always be observant of who and what is in a room or place. Always clean your equipment so it will be ready when you need it to function. Always have a backup plan. Don’t ever just have one pen with you.

These are a few of the things I remember from my Military training. I strive to notice what others don’t, although I find myself being caught up in the norm of complacency, movies, TV and the busy life that ends up wasting my time. A doctor told me about a strange concept once called intuitive medicine, I won’t let it take the place of professional medical advice although it was interesting. He said many times your body will tell you what it needs if we will only listen to it. Example: When I eat too much cheese or the wrong type of cheese I get allot of flem so we can gauge the appropriate amount of things we eat so it won’t cause problems. All of us have heard “Moderation in all things” and I believe it.

People can be extreme with anything and then it can turn into an addiction. My definition of addiction is

“Anything that you do that causes negative consequences and you keep doing it anyway”

It could be spending too much time on any one thing which causes you to ignore your family or the important things in your life. I have seen friends spend so much time at the gym or watching sports that they began to loose their families, I have seen people become too religious or spend too much time on reading that their relationships suffer.

All too often people fall into addiction and then claim they are depressed. Real depression hits you when there is no cause for it otherwise it is not depression if there is a cause. If your mother dies you may say you are depressed which is incorrect because there is a cause for your sadness so it is not depression. Learning to deal with STUFF is important. Once a licensed therapist told one of my children “What does your inner therapist tell you?” they thought about it and answered and the response was actually quite insightful. We are now back to intuitive medicine listening to our own bodies or our inner therapist.

Strive to have balance in your life by looking at what is most important at different times of your life. For young people some of the legs of their four legged table that required you to have all four legs on the ground and supported might be the leg of Education, another leg may be Family and spiritual, another leg may be taking care of your body by eating and exercising and another leg may be emotional and mental support. Ignoring anyone of these legs can make the table fall. Often adults spend too much time at work and the other legs fall or they spend too much time away from family doing something else and they end up in divorce. I work with lots of people that place most of their important on their financial leg or work and money. They lack in their personal relationships and their lives are out of balance.

I have a friend and his legs are as follows: CHURCH – MUSIC – WORK – FAMILY

This is not a bad setup because this man is quite balanced and is very happy. He spends time serving others and has a great and healthy relationships with his friends and family. This friend of mine just finished medical school so he concentrated on EDUCATION for years and now he is taking a break and composing music.

When I was young my four legs were KARATE – MUSIC – SCHOOL – CHURCH and later I added girls to the mix which can be quite distracting. I am not saying we can only have four legs although I am saying that spending too much time on any leg can cause you to be off balance.

So the military affected me and I will hold on to those teachings for the rest of my life and recently I have been observing the lives of many people and trying to learn from watching them. I am so grateful for the life that I have and I am trying to put my life in order so it becomes balanced. Is your life balanced or do you need to make some changes?

Clases de Saykoshta defensa propia en espanol

Soy Larry Love el presidente de la Rama Buena Vista y enseño clases de defensa personal en espanol. Apenas graduaron una clase y estoy tomando registraciones para la nueva clase. Esta session va a ser a las 8 en la manana en 500 Sur y 1170 W en Lagos Salado y las clases estan en espanol.

Que: Clases de defensa propia (El estilo se llama Saykoshta)

Quien : Tienen que tener por lo menos 16 anos y permiso de los padres.

Cuando: Sabados a las 8AM a 9AM (No 8:05 ni 8:02 pero 8 en punto) Clases empiezan 11 de Abril por solo 8 semanas.

Ropa: No tiene que tener uniforme pero ropa modesta y floja

Donde: 500 Sur y 1170 W (Emery Street) en Lago Salado en la capilla

Por favor no traiga sus niños a la clase porque este va a distraernos.

Costo: $4 por clase donado a los Scouts de la Rama Buena Vista. Se puede hacer una cheque a la Rama Buena Vista con la nota SCOUTS y poner la donación en el sobre de donaciones y quedar con el recibo amarillo.

Requisitos: Debe estar dispuesto(a) a practicar una hora a la semana, venir a la hora indicada y poner atención durante la clase y a venir a todos las clases. Este taller va a durar solo 8 semanas.

Descripción de las clases: Vamos a aprender estirar, respirar, pegar sin quebrar los huesos de la mano, patear en la manera correcta, y salir de situaciones difíciles con técnicas de karate y también usando su mente.

Manda SU nombre, SU telefono y la razón porque queres tomar la clase y voy a revisar su aplicacion. Se puede comprar el costo en cualquier lado y no van a encontrar clases tan razonable. He ensenando clases de Karate por mas de 20 anos y quiero ayudar las personas que necesitan defenderse.

Manda su nombre a mi email a larrylove@hotmail.com

Solo voy a aceptar los primeros 8 y después puede estar en la lista para la proxima clase. Siempre recomiendo que mis estudiantes toman clases de otros estilos pero la información de este clase es única porque hablamos de situaciones reales y maneras de salir y ser exitosos. Saykoshta significa exito.


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Be alert, notice every detail and remember. Look and wait for the right time and the right opportunity to act. Many times the best action is no action. Many times the best words are no words. Attention to detail and striving for excellence. Don’t just settle for a passing grade be the best you can. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about a situation so you can just take it all in and accept that there is nothing to be done. Meditation, prayer and acceptance will lighten your load. Practicing properly at least 500 times will embed movements into your muscle memory. Building relationships of trust. Honor confidentiality. Listen more than you talk then you will find out who people really are. Distance yourself from those who are not helping to build you up. Set realistic goals that will move you forward. Hang around people that are more intelligent and better than you are. Strive to care about things and people that you should care about. Avoid apathy and come to events and meetings early not just on time. Obviously this paragraph does not make much sense but these are the notes from the Saykoshta board from the last two weeks. Success in martial arts also is affected by success in your life.

This is me, do I look like a wise old man? This is from a recent production I was in. The beard is real if your wondering.

This is me, do I look like a wise old man? This is from a recent production I was in. The beard is real if your wondering.


“Conflict cannot survive without your participation in it.” ~Wayne Dyer

“Conflict cannot survive without your participation in it.”
~Wayne Dyer

Doves are the symbol of peace

Doves are the symbol of peace

Others will point out that when you follow this statement or advice that you will get walked over by those that would take advantage of you. They will tell you that you must learn to be assertive and stand up for yourself. There is a middle ground and there are ways of dealing with mean, rude or even evil people without using violence. Wayne is pointing out a very good point and with each situation you should decide if it is a conflict that is worth getting involved in or not. If not then don’t waste your time with it. Ask yourself is it worth getting arrested for? If the answer is no then that will help you decide what path to take. Is it worth losing a friend over? If the answer is no then don’t participate in the conflict. If your friend is involved in something that they should not be doing then it may be worth standing up and letting them know how you feel and you may not end up in that relationship any longer after the conflict but that may end up being a good thing considering that you become like the people you hand out with.

protesting causes conflict which may be needed

protesting causes conflict which may be needed

Seikoshta lesson 022313 attitude consequences positive thinking motives

Figuring out the consequences beforehand for several actions and then making a wise decision

The glass is half full

Change your thoughts change your life.

What if exercise:

Chess – Think ahead – Be patient, balanced yet act in a reasonable time. Since you have planned things out before hand your thought process has already been decided and therefore your actions can be quick.

Sending an Army to war: They need food, rest, ammo. How much does it cost to get the food there? Is it worth the final result? In the book “The Art of War” they discuss many aspects of risk, preparation and logistics. (Getting men, food and equipment from point A to point B) weigh the costs and the risks of your actions ahead of time.

Eating too much, not eating enough, effect on organs, health, ability to function. Once again, we can’t just tell someone that is bulimic or anorexic to just stop and eat right because there are other aspects that have to be dealt with treating the person as a whole. The thought process has to be changed through therapy and the physical body also has to be treated. When you don’t eat right then your body starts to eat itself so to speak. You can become weak and have major problems when you don’t get the nutrition you need. The same applies to exercise and even to doing too much exercise as well. Find a balance. Avoid apathy, always try to learn something new each day.

Letting things that others say bother you. What effect does it have on you and how does it affect others?
Paying all your bills when you get some extra money. Is this wise? Weigh the options out and have an emergency fund. Using credit wisely. Don’t fall into the trap. Check places charge over 400% interest but if it is only 2wks sometimes it is only 18% but don’t be fooled. If you get a tax refund paying off your bills would be a good thing but if your credit is bad then having an emergency fund is also very important. If your mother dies and she lives in another state then you may need to fly to the funeral so you should have an emergency fund in case of something like a death or if you lose your job.

I learned the above lesson from a college course and although the professor was teaching a class about the housing market and how to buy and sell homes he taught us much more. He also had a PHD in Psychology and would talk about many issues. He explained the poor people have poor ways and rich people have rich ways and it is your thought process. People will try to save money changing their own oil when in fact they end up wasting time that could be used more productively with your family or making much more money that would bring back returns while you were sleeping. Getting money to make money for you whether you are there or not. Those type of investments can turn your life around. It may be hard to move into a home that is not so nice, fix it up for the next two years and then move again but the process can also generate much more income than a normal job. If you are changing your own oil because you enjoy taking care of your car that is one thing but if you buy $20 in oil and a $5 filter yourself rather than paying the extra $10 dollars to have someone else do it then you may be missing opportunities elsewhere.

The classic example of this is someone that makes $10 per hour giving up overtime work where they could be making $15 per hour because they want to leave their job early so they can change their own oil that night. They are not thinking things through. They might save $10 dollars in labor but they will be working on the car on their own time which is also costing them money. Your time is worth more than you think. Milo taught me that along with many other valuable lessons. If you can pay a neighbor boy $10 to mow your lawn you may have just freed up time where you can spend time with your family that you might not otherwise have and at the same time you are helping the neighbor boy earn money he needs and you are also working on your marriage. Use your time wisely, rich people tend to waste less time than poor people. Poor people have poor thoughts.

When you say “I never have any money” this becomes self fulfilling prophesy because you will never have any money. According to the law of attraction you get more about what you talk about, think about and spend your time on. If you are spending your time on non productive things you will get more of that in your life and have a non productive life. Make a priority list and balance it between family, work, church, community, education etc…. Changing your statements into statements of why will make all the difference in the world because it gives your brain something to think about. Why am I such a good neighbor? Why am I such a great businessperson? Why am I such a good student? You mind will work on these statements and begin to look or solutions and answers. Why am I so healthy? You mind tries to answer this and it comes up with things like: Because I exercise, because I eat right, because I take time to rest and so on. When you are not doing the thing you should your mind helps change your course back to a good course of action using the WHY statements. If you just say “I am healthy” you mind has nothing to work on and your mind recognizes this as a LIE so it is really counter productive to use these type of statements. Change it to WHY AM I…….
Let your mind help transform you into a more educated, loving, nice, productive, healthy person.

If you put too much priority on your family and you don’t make enough money to support them then you very well could loose your family. If you spend too much time at work never spending time with your family then you could loose your family. If you don’t stay up on qualifications and training you may not get the promotions at work so getting the education and training you need is also important. If you ignore your social life then you may not feel a sense of well being so try to mix some of the things that will work on more than one item at a time. As an example you could listen to learning MP3 files while you were at the gym. You could go on a walk with your husband or wife or cook dinner together. You could start a family business to make extra money and the list goes on. If you take dancing lessons together you would be working on your exercise, social skills and family all at the same time. Neglecting one or more areas of your life will throw you out of balance.

Karate: If you hit or hurt someone are you willing to deal with the consequences of your actions for the rest of your life? Only use these methods to help and defend in emergency situations. If there is another way out then use it.
Do not use these techniques in school, work or when others can be involved to solve the problem because the consequences of jail and mistrust are not worth it.

Ask yourself if your friends tease you or are goofing off what you need to prove to them…..Nothing, it is not worth hurting someone just to prove you can beat them up or hurt them.

Plan each incident out in your mind first and asking your mind and body to react differently in each situation according to how urgent the fight or conflict is. Does it matter if someone thinks you are weak or a coward? Use this to your advantage. Think it through one step at a time and then several steps at a time. Always ask yourself what your options are and then ask yourself what their options are.

Ask yourself why they are doing what they are doing. What is their motive and once you know this and put yourself in their shoes then you can plan accordingly. Put yourself in their place. Know how blessed you are to be in the spot you are in.

If you fail to plan you plan to fail

If you plan ahead you are setting yourself up for success. Seikoshta (Saykoshta) Successful
Enjoy life, enjoy the hard times because you know it will get better. Enjoy youth because later your eyesight my go, you body does not react as fast or even at all sometimes so feel blessed and share love not hate or bad feelings.

(Newspaper trick) A group of people were called in to do an exercise and they were asked to count how many pictures there were in a newspaper. The people that were positive people or more optimistic not only counted the pictures but they noticed a headline that said if you read this you win $100 dollars. The newspapers was fake and the pessimistic people would only count the pictures and report doing the minimum requirement.

You see we create our own luck with our attitude and our outlook. Those that always look on the bright side of things deal with stress better than others. This simple analysis does not discount those with deep depression or other issues although overall people that tend to read positive things, watch positive uplifting movies and shows tend to think positively and their actions and words also tend to be positive.

You get more of what you give, you get more of what you talk about and think about for the majority of the time. So don’t think about negative things but dwell on the good, the positive and life will change.